It’s 9:00 p.m and for the past hour, four-year-old Emma and her Mother have been in a battle of wits.
Mom has been urging Emma to turn off the light and go to sleep, but Emma refuses because she’s sure that some unknown scary creature will enter her bedroom after dark. Emma’s Mom tries to reassure her daughter that she is perfectly safe but Emma just shakes her head. They’ve through this for the past three nights.
Does this sound familiar? If so, do not feel guilty for being a bad parent. This type of nighttime fear is common in children between the ages of 3 and 8 when they have an especially creative imagination!
Instead of telling your child that there’s nothing to be afraid of, acknowledge what they are feeling and suggest that the two of you create a “Monster Spray” to keep the scary things out of their bedroom. This gives the child an empowerment tool to help them feel more in control. It’s also a terrific lesson in facing fears, rather than trying to make them go away.
Monster Spray Recipe
- 1 oz (30 ml) of Lavender Hydrosol ( Why Lavender? For the relaxing properties and to help the child fall asleep)
- OR 1 oz (30 ml) of Sweetgrass Hydrosol (Why Sweetgrass? For protection; see the directions below)
- 1 oz PET plastic spray bottle (Why 1 oz plastic? It’s light and manageable for little hands)
If you use the Lavender hydrosol, tell your child that monsters hate Lavender. If you feel uncomfortable “fibbing” to your child remember this: those “monsters” are fear, and fear is real. Fear hates Lavender!
If you use the Sweetgrass hydrosol, this would be a great time to explain how the Native American’s have used Sweetgrass for protection for centuries. Read more about Sweetgrass in this blog post. Read more about smudging in this article.
How to Use the Spray
Before the child goes to sleep, make a ritual of spraying their bedroom with the magical spray, and especially over the bed. If you want to add a prayer or affirmation, this would be a good time to incorporate that. Finally, put the spray bottle next to their bed so they can use it if they wake up in the night.
If you have a nighttime “Monster Spray” or some other empowerment tool you use with your child, please share it in the comment section below!